Thoughts from an Introvert


Currently trying to work through:

  1. How much time to spend with people before they become a client. 15 minutes on the phone seems too short, an hour in-person is exhausting.
  2. How to spend time by myself without it being centered around my phone or a bright screen. And not feeling guilty when that’s sometimes what I want to do.
  3. And to add to that: knowing the difference between activities that temporarily relax me and ones that actually fill me up.
  4. Scheduling time or days off when we schedule multiple jam sessions in one week. And remembering that I shouldn’t schedule social activities the night of a jam session. 12+ hours of socialization doesn’t work.
  5. That presenting design work is a form of vulnerability and can leave me feeling alive but also tired.
  6. Compromise with my co-worker/husband and I can’t just be a hermit. Even when it’s so cold.

PS: I wrote an ebook about introversion while also being a professional/girl boss. We also have an Instagram. #introvertsunite



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  • emily
    Posted at 13:14h, 11 February Reply

    so real. the struggle is soooo real.

  • DT
    Posted at 18:55h, 11 February Reply

    I can relate to all of them..

    • Allison
      Posted at 17:02h, 12 February Reply

      We’re not alone!!

  • Diana
    Posted at 02:01h, 12 February Reply

    I love being alone, especially going to the movies. But I go through phases. I remember when you asked to meet up and I seriously had a mini panic attack. Nothing personal of course, it was all on me. The variety of having a conversation with another person other than my husband and my pets wasn’t something I could handle at the time. Then a few months later, I’m like a Walmart greeter everywhere I go. Weirdo.

    • Allison
      Posted at 17:03h, 12 February Reply

      Diana, I can totally relate. I’ve been known to cancel trips or have breakdowns with houseguests because of my introversion. Seems silly when you’re not experiencing it (even now I’m like…what?). So I totally understand.

      • Denise
        Posted at 15:28h, 28 February Reply

        It’s such a relief to see that I am not the only one who suffers from these intense bouts of introversion!

  • Lexi
    Posted at 05:05h, 12 February Reply

    I just bought your e-book and i love it! It is seriously just what I needed. Also this blog post reminds me of myself! I always find myself being a hermit, and then when I force myself to be social for too long I get so tired!! Introverts unite!

    • Allison
      Posted at 17:03h, 12 February Reply

      That is SO affirming to hear, Lexi!! Excited to know you now.

  • Alannah Renee
    Posted at 09:31h, 12 February Reply

    I’m a huge introvert (100% on Meyer-Briggs) and have found things to be difficult – especially when working with others. I’ve just found your blog and LOVE it. I’ll be buying your ebook soon.

    • Allison
      Posted at 17:41h, 12 February Reply

      It’s tough isn’t it? I’m learning how to be a boss/leader and it’s challenging. I hope you enjoy the ebook!!

  • Naomi
    Posted at 20:51h, 12 February Reply

    “knowing the difference between activities that temporarily relax me and ones that actually fill me up.” – I can so relate. I feel like that with my phone and computer -it distracts me for 5 min as procrastination, but doesn’t particularly contribute to my energy and differs from the way I feel after reading, painting, etc. Thanks for paving the way for us introverts Allison!

    • Allison
      Posted at 00:28h, 17 February Reply

      Exactly! I find that letting it die or leaving it at home is the best method because it’s harder for me to read a book when it’s sitting there. So crazy!

  • Danielle
    Posted at 12:40h, 15 February Reply

    One of my favorite topics, especially when related to entrepreneurship. Finding the right balance is so important, and an ongoing struggle. One thing I need to start doing is scheduling a complete day off after traveling. I tend to jump right back into work and it takes me twice as long to recover that way.

    • Allison
      Posted at 00:28h, 17 February Reply

      Oh that’s a REALLY good idea. I should have done that today. We got home from our trip late and then I had a full day and was exhausted!

  • Amy
    Posted at 21:53h, 15 February Reply

    Ahhh, Allie. I hear you on so many levels. Working remotely has been a huge help for me. I don’t go home feeling drained, but I do notice that even on days when I have a lot of Skype/phone meetings, it still take a toll. And I wrestle with the whole “always connected” thing — even though I enjoy quiet time pinning or playing on Instagram. I’m currently trying to figure out how to add some variety (and away-from-deskness into my life). That doesn’t mean forced social time, but other activities that give me joy and maybe get me out of the house throughout the week. Looking forward to hearing more on how you manage all of this in your own life.

    • Allison
      Posted at 00:30h, 17 February Reply

      I agree, Amy. We have a studio, but days that I work from home are always needed. I have to gear up for skype and phone calls too! Cooking, lately, has been a great way for me to disconnect and do something that is fun.

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