Inherent Pleasures

I can’t even believe how much my life has changed since May. I still have the same job(s), I’m still married to Adam (forever), and we still feel at home here in Columbus. The changes? I probably freelance 2-3 nights a week, I workout now, and I actually use weekends to take a break. I really loved this quote (above) that I found on Swissmiss this week:

“Staying focused on our goals detracts from the inherent pleasures of the activities we need to pursue to achieve those goals.” - Christian Jarret

I read it and I smiled. I couldn’t agree more.

Can you relate? What helps you achieve your goals? Do you ever feel like focusing too intensely can be detrimental? 

14 Comments

  1. I’m finding it hard to define a goal these days. I think it can be bad when it becomes an obsession. It’s a fine line and it’s hard to know when you have crossed it……………

  2. I also read that article, and while I think it’s good to take pleasure in the pleasant, I think that goal-setting is very useful. (But that makes sense, given that I just posted a list of 101 goals I want to complete, right?) I think that setting goals of things that I really WANT to do is the key. I’m not just setting goals for the sake of setting goals. I’m making a list of measurable items that I believe will improve my life or other’s lives. So in that sense I feel like I’m prioritizing some things that otherwise would get lost in the work/Girls on the Run/blog cycle.

    • Goals are definitely important. I find that I work best with 3-4 BIG goals. Paying off all our debt was one and it was nice to check myself when confronted with life’s options. Sure I could have set a goal of traveling to Seattle but it wouldn’t have been aligned with that bigger goal. Now that I worked hard (to the point that I went a little crazy), we’re able to take trips and buy a house. In that way, I understand keeping your head down and achieving goals. So ultimately I see pros and cons to both approaches. I try to keep the lighter goals flexible and allow my life to take over organically when needed.

      Btw I loved reading your 101 goals. So awesome and even inspired some things that I want to try to do!

      • Yeah, that I can understand. I think it depends on priorities; I don’t mind having student loan debt at this point in time (though I’d like to start paying it down more aggressively), but choosing to carry debt or not is definitely a goal that shapes other goals. Interesting how that shapes it all!

        I also think the quote refers to finding pleasure in the process, which I totally agree with. :)

  3. This makes me really happy. :)

    Have you read this NYT article about the “busy trap”? It kinda reflects the same idea as the quote you shared – I read it earlier this week and it really stuck with me. I totally do this to myself!

    http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/06/30/the-busy-trap/

    • Oh my I need to read that! I saw it circulating on Twitter. I think there’s a difference between working hard/being productive and then essentially being addicted to being “busy.” Busy doesn’t mean productive! Letting myself enjoy life has actually made my works’ quality increase (and quantity decrease).

  4. That quote is so fabulously true – it’s something I have to remind myself of each day, especially about blogging – when putting in all of the effort to make your blog a success gets tiring, you have to remember that you love doing it simply for the sake of posting, and not for how many page views/comments/likes you get.

    Hope you have a fantastic weekend, Allie!

    • Yes! The enjoyment and fun should be the first priority. I hate it when I’m stressed or loathe the idea of blogging (usually I have to take a step back). I’ve really let go of the need to look at stats or numbers over the past few months, I’d rather have fun/lovely/loyal readers who engage (like you!) Enjoy your weekend, lady!!

  5. I focused very intensely on work for about a year when I was getting ready to leave my job. But now I think I have a good balance of work and play. Taking time off definitely helps me come back a few hours later or the next day and produce my best work.

    • I can relate- there were definitely certain times when I worked intensely to hit certain goals and then I felt like I could relax a lot after. I think if you want something that much…the intensity is needed. It just can’t be maintained as a lifestyle.

  6. ALDAN

    I always end up feeling guilty as heck when I step away from the pursuit of my goals & just splurge on some awesome clothes… as I just did a few days ago. Been feeling like crap, but this quote makes me feel better. Thank you, Allie. Glad I logged on, as always.

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